Hello Cougars and Cubs,
Dr Phil did a show today on the "Cougar Craze" to discuss the movement of younger guys seeking older women as partners.
He tried to present a balanced view but I think he missed the boat a little. I was already a bit worried about how the show would represent the cougar women when I saw the preview. As soon as I saw the preview, I emailed the show and asked if we could be involved or have some comments from our group included and I invited them to check us out and our events.
We are the only group doing regular Cougar and Cubs Dating events. In my personal life I've nearly always been partial to younger guys so I've had a lot of real life experience. After hosting about 300 singles parties and events over 4 years and having made countless matches and many marriages, I can call myself an expert on dating and relationships and I have enough experience to make a few comments on The Dr Phil Show and the cougar mentality that was portrayed.
On his Cougar show, he used the same tired old clip that everyone has used from the "Sugar Mama's and Boy Toys" event which didn't do much except to show cougars in the light of having to "buy" their cubs. Bobbi, on the Dr Phil show tried her best to portray what a real cougar is like, but her message got a little lost. (See Dr Phil's Show Copy Below)
How can cougars be seen in a positive light when at events like the "Sugar Mama" event, they have to pay $500 to attend and men can get by on $50 and being handsome. That event sent out a pretty negative message about what cougar women are like. I found the Sugar Mama event to be degrading in its message that younger guys will be interested in older women ONLY if they have enough cash in the purses to buy their toy boy. If a cougar has to pay $500 to date a cub...she's doing something wrong. I guess for all the money those Sugar Mama cougars make...they still got ripped off. They could have met 15 wonderful cubs at my event for about $50.00.
Dr Phil did a show today on the "Cougar Craze" to discuss the movement of younger guys seeking older women as partners.
He tried to present a balanced view but I think he missed the boat a little. I was already a bit worried about how the show would represent the cougar women when I saw the preview. As soon as I saw the preview, I emailed the show and asked if we could be involved or have some comments from our group included and I invited them to check us out and our events.
We are the only group doing regular Cougar and Cubs Dating events. In my personal life I've nearly always been partial to younger guys so I've had a lot of real life experience. After hosting about 300 singles parties and events over 4 years and having made countless matches and many marriages, I can call myself an expert on dating and relationships and I have enough experience to make a few comments on The Dr Phil Show and the cougar mentality that was portrayed.
On his Cougar show, he used the same tired old clip that everyone has used from the "Sugar Mama's and Boy Toys" event which didn't do much except to show cougars in the light of having to "buy" their cubs. Bobbi, on the Dr Phil show tried her best to portray what a real cougar is like, but her message got a little lost. (See Dr Phil's Show Copy Below)
How can cougars be seen in a positive light when at events like the "Sugar Mama" event, they have to pay $500 to attend and men can get by on $50 and being handsome. That event sent out a pretty negative message about what cougar women are like. I found the Sugar Mama event to be degrading in its message that younger guys will be interested in older women ONLY if they have enough cash in the purses to buy their toy boy. If a cougar has to pay $500 to date a cub...she's doing something wrong. I guess for all the money those Sugar Mama cougars make...they still got ripped off. They could have met 15 wonderful cubs at my event for about $50.00.
This isn't the real image of the confident cougar woman nor is it the way real cougar women are, or how real cougar women behave.
Real cougar women are confident, smart and sexy and can attract the men they want just by being themselves. They know who they are and they are proud to be their own person. They are well rounded in all areas of their lives because they've had time to become their best selves. They can be high-powered business women in the office; loving mothers at home; kind, supportive and strong in their friendships and a sex goddess in the bedroom. In our youth-obsessed culture we are forgetting the depth and well roundedness of a luscious, mature woman. The analogy to fine wine is obvious, unless you like cheap wine.
A cougar is strong and powerful in herself because she's spent time working on who she is and she's become comfortable in her own skin. She's not interested in working hard to please men like she did when she was younger. She knows that if she pleases herself and is a happy and confident Cougar, she will naturally attract the younger men who seek her out. A smart and wily Cub who takes care of his Cougar knows that's he will be well taken care of by his Cougar. It's a naturally reciprocal relationship just like any other one.
I'd love to hear your comments on the subject.
Also check out the comments on Dr Phil's Message Boards at http://drphil.com/messageboard/topic/3266
COPY FROM THE DR PHIL SHOW:
"Demi Moore did it. So did Madonna and Halle Berry. This trend of older women dating younger men is called the Cougar Craze, and it’s sweeping the country. Recently, at a New York speed-dating event, "Sugar Mamas and Boy Toys," good-looking 35-year-old men wooed women over 35 who made at least $500,000 a year. Jeremy organized the event and says he was just answering a demand from affluent ladies. Was he sincere in his matchmaking or just out to make a buck? Dr. Phil talks to two women who participated in the event -- Gail, 44 and Nancy, 50. Their experiences might surprise you. Then, 51-year-old Kat says she’s no cougar; she just likes to date younger guys because men her age are set in their ways. She says her 23-year-old ex-boyfriend, Ryon, was loving, passionate and had a much higher libido than older men. Her friend, Nancy, says Kat has a great head for business, but a bad one when it comes to the opposite sex. She says young men just see dollar signs when they see Kat. Is Kat dating down, or should Nancy just butt out? And, Bobbi had an 11-year relationship with a man who was 17 years her junior, but she says once she turned 50, he saw her as too old. She wants to be in a relationship again, but not with an older man. Her son, Nathan, says someone still wet behind the ears can’t appreciate all Bobbi has to offer. Does Nathan have the right to put his foot down with his mother? Do you think it's OK for older women to date younger men?"
I checked out the poll on Dr Phil's website and over 80% of people think it's OK for younger men to date older women.
Cheers, The Aussie Cougar
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